Whenever I express a belief that sex is over-sold, or should be restricted to meaningful relationships (although… maybe not saved until marriage), I worry that I’ll get pigeonholed as a social conservative. This couldn’t be farther from the truth, as regular reader(s) will know. But a certain personal morality, I think, is and ought to be unlinked from political belief, religion, or creed. That is to say, political liberality is not personal liberality. Although we ought to have the right to make our own choices on this matter, I think we as a culture would be happier and better off if some of the mystique and specialness of sex were restored.
So thanks to The Art of Manliness for a socially responsible and apolitical take on the subject. Maybe it’s just because I don’t “get” hook-ups – I’ve been in a serious (and fantastic!) relationship for quite a while now – but it rings very true to me that sex is special. It’s at least more special than how we commonly treat it.
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I agree it’s fine to have a personal morality. However, I fear that women usually take the brunt of attacks when it comes to the discussion of sex. Even though men have had more of a personal freedom to it throughout the ages, it’s women who get blamed for exercising the exact same freedom than men do. Why is that?
Comment by Sarah May 28, 2008 @ 11:16 pmSystemic bias. Women get blamed for being sexual while men don’t, for no reason other than that that’s the way it’s always been done. It sucks. You’re absolutely right about this, and it’s a sad truth. I wish it wasn’t.
Comment by Ames May 28, 2008 @ 11:19 pmThe counter-argument, rendered facetiously:
The average man thinks about sex something like every 10 seconds.
The average woman thinks about sex something like 3-4 times a day.
(I don’t want to do a google search for the exact statistics on this stuff at work.)
At a biological level, then, I simply cannot be tasked with exercising any self-restraint. It’s in my blood and has developed that way over thousands of years. That also explains my insatiable desire to kill mastodons.
Comment by Collin May 29, 2008 @ 12:14 pm